DANGEROUS MISTAKES MANY COUPLES MAKE.

The mistake many Christian couples do in the bedroom is to assume that their bodies belong to them alone. But according to the Bible, your body as a Christian married person has two other ownership. You and your spouse.
God said, “The two will become one flesh.” This is a declaration from God that brings a fundamental change of spiritual and physical status. Where two were, there is now one. 1 Corinthians 7:5 says, "Don’t defraud one another. Do not cheat each other by coming up with excuses for saying “no” to sex when your spouse needs it. The Bible teaches that a husband and a wift are on absolutely equal on matters sex. The wife has all rights to her husband’s body, the same way he also has all rights on her wife's body.
DANGEROUS MISTAKES OF WITHHOLDING SEX FROM YOUR SPOUSE
A couple may have reasons, which may be legitimate. But apart from those reasons, withholding sex from your spouse is not defensible behavior for a Christian. It is not only sin, but it is worse than that. The Bible also says if you choose that path, you are inviting more sin into your marriage. In the normal Christian marriage that has no sex, or even infrequent sex leads to more sin. Anyone who ignores his/her spouse’s needs for physical touch and sexual intimacy is walking in sin.
The Bible is not an ice-cream shop where Christians can pick and choose the verse they like best.
If married men and women do not remain physically intimate with each other on a regular basis, they are setting themselves up for sin. If they withhold sex from each other, they are setting up their spouse for sin, as Paul tells in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5
“. . . to avoid engaging in illicit sex of any kind, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. The husband should ensure his wife’s sexual needs are met and the wife should make sure her husband’s sexual needs are met. The wife does not have power (exclusive authority/the right to deny her husband) over her own body and neither does the husband. And, don’t defraud each other (withhold sex from each other), unless you both agree for a time so you can fast and pray about a particular issue. Then, be sure to commence having sex so Satan doesn’t have an opportunity to tempt you to have sex with someone else.”
HOW MUCH SEX?
Here it is a Christian couple's burden to bear! Nevertheless, obedience may not be that fun! However, we will all stand before God one day, to give an account of our sex lives in our marriages. Many husbands and wives will have to answer to the question, “I told you to have sex often, why did you withhold yourself from your spouse? Why didn’t you meet the sexual needs of the wife/husband I gave you? Why did you live as if your body belonged to you?”
When your partner desires sex she or he should never be made to feel like they are intruding into your lifr. You must consider where each of you are at, emotionally, physically. You must not be thoughtless, selfish, and inconsiderate.
Unfortunately, many husbands are very unloving in seeking sex only, rather than seeking the intimacy of communication their wives craves; non-sexual touch, and insuring that their wives feel cared for. But the basic mindset of a biblically informed spouse should be: Your body is right here waiting for you. Come and enjoy it whenever you desire. Do not withhold from your spouse what is rightfully hers/his.
If you need to make a change then find the right moment to acknowledge to your spouse you have been walking in sin in this area of sex and you are going forward, to aligning your thinking with what the Bible teaches.
In a happy, fulfilling, God-honoring marriage, you will not find two perfect people. But, you will find two people who are seeking to be obedient to God’s instructions for marriage.
Are you a married Christian? Then glorify God in your body by not withholding what God says is rightfully your spouse’s.